Mornings III
When the craziness of life doesn’t call us away,
I want to enjoy the
simple beauty that comes from rising
slowly, facing the day without plans –
staying as close to you as humanly possible.
By Elaina M. Avalos
Mornings III
Tag: Love
Miss You Always
Is it possible that I’m missing you, already?
The hours that passed since I last saw you,
are nothing compared to the time it took
to find you. When I last set my eyes on yours,
I was hopeful. Now I expect to miss you always.
Mornings Part II
Mornings Part II
In the morning, when it’s quiet, there’s a flash of perfect contentment in my heart.
There’s something about the morning light, shining in the kitchen window &
the start of a new day – that looks a lot like home – the
kind without four walls. When I turn to see you
smiling, I dream of ways to keep that smile on your face, all my days.
~ Elaina M. Avalos
Love Can Be Soft
I’m not sure I can do @rainbowsalt (aka Bianca Sparacino), justice with this post. But I’m loving her writing more and more. I read this on her IG account, this morning and had to share. “Love can be soft…” For those of us who’ve seen a painful side of love – whether it’s due to rough experiences growing up or adult relationships that have been painful, this could be a revelation. I mean, relationships are hard. I’m not talking about the work it takes to remain committed to another. I’m talking about the unhealthy, painful love many of us stick with because something seems familiar about it. Why does something painful feel familiar? If we have trauma in our past, as much as we don’t want more pain and trauma, it can feel sadly normal. Or, we talk ourselves into sticking with it because don’t want another failed relationship nor do we want to be alone.
But, we don’t have to live with what may have felt normal at one time. We can find this kind of love. It is entirely possible. “Let go of those who will only ever love you in halves, who will never ben able to give you what you deeply desire. Please, just learn how to lay your arms down, how to stop fighting for those who are not fighting for you – because love is not meant to be pain. Love is not meant to hurt. Love is good, and you deserve good love. Release anything that does not honor that.”
I could not have said it better. There’s a peace that comes when you can recognize this about yourself – your tendency to stick with what’s familiar, even when it hurts. If you’re still on that journey, hang in there. Half the battle is recognizing this about your past relationships. That sets the foundation for being able to find this kind of love in its wake. But in the meantime, we owe it to ourselves, and our future Love – to work on us so we are the best partner we can possibly be.
Settling
There’s a thing we do sometimes – we settle for being loved in a halfhearted way. We know what we want and what we long for and yet, we still seem to find ourselves there. I have been there. Settling for crumbs, when a feast awaits, sounds like a pretty human thing to do. So don’t beat yourself up too much. But if you’re accepting less than what you know you deserve and less than what you want so very badly, it’s time to give up the crumbs.
Stop settling. I’m certainly going to.
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