Mama

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I don’t know about you, but for me, there are things I know I am meant to do and be. I am a mama.

I have spent a lifetime looking forward to motherhood and to the family I prayed for, for so long.

My future family & being a mama looks a little different from where I stand now. I never dreamed I’d be here.

I have been on a long path to be a foster and {or} adoptive parent for decades {about three of them}. But I never saw myself embarking on this journey as a single woman.

But here I am.

I started foster parent training last year. I had to put the stops on that but knew it was “temporary.” I’ve kick-started this thing again with a new foster parent agency. They’re a Christian agency & I feel at home there. My training will be complete in December. The remainder of the licensing process will continue on for several months after.

As I’ve jumped in again, I’m even more convinced today than I was a year ago that God has put the pieces of my life together in such a way that I was made for this.

Did I want to do this alone? No. Did I plan it this way? Oh heck no. But here I am. I am a mama. And there are little ones {and not so little ones} who are precious in His sight who need a mama. They desperately long for a home and to be loved and cared for as we all need.

So without all the answers and uncertain about how to juggle singleness and parenting, I’m jumping into the fire again. I’ve been thinking a great deal about the babies or children that will make this their home – for a time – or forever.

I don’t know their stories. But I know that God will take the brokenness that brings them to me and will give me the gift of breathing hope, healing, and love into their lives for a season or forever.

I still have moments of grief over what isn’t or what was lost long ago. But here I am. With four bedrooms, a huge backyard, and a passion for the lives of his most precious ones, I am opening my heart and home.

Mom – Starting the Foster Care Journey

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There’s just this one thing I want. I want to be a mom. I have always wanted a huge family. Huge. I’ve wanted this as long as I can remember. I don’t think many dream of being a single parent. If you want to be a parent, you see yourself as part of a team – a two-parent household to go with your white picket fence. I’ve said that all before.

Somewhere in there, I decided that parenting a child without a home and family was in the cards for me. I had a plan to make it happen. I may not have dreamed of being a single parent but I know a few things:

  • There are millions of orphans in the world and more than 400,000 in foster care right here in the U.S.
  • My faith says I’m responsible to care for the widow and orphan.
  • I have a roof over my head, money in my checking account, abundant food on the table and empty rooms in my house.
  • There are children right here in Eastern Carolina that want a safe, stable home with at least one parent who will take care of them, love them, put a roof over their head, and give them a “normal” life.
  • I will never forget reading the story of a foster child {in another state} seeking a family to spend her 16th birthday with. I have the love, the means, the desire, the gifts, the patience, and the determination to give a home to kids just like this young lady that just wanted one “normal” moment in her life as an orphan.

I hit a wall in my plan a couple of months ago. I wasn’t sure what to do next. Was I to believe that this was the end? That maybe it wasn’t in the cards for me to be a mom through foster care or foster adopt? It certainly seemed like it at first glance.

I have still struggled through that. But I reached a decision point recently. If all of the above is true, what the hell am I waiting for? As a result, I’m on a mission to make this happen. I will be a foster mom and if the pieces come together, I’ll adopt at some point.

I’ve wasted so much time. At forty, while I’ve got the best years ahead, it’s time to show up for my life.