Every little girl dreams of her knight in shining armor. I certainly
did (okay, I still do). I can honestly remember being in Kindergarten and weaving fairy tales about the man who would fall in love with me and make me his princess. Maybe not literally his princess – but his princess just the same.
I’ve met some men I thought might be him – that proverbial knight. I have fallen in love a few times. But in all three cases, I guess they weren’t the one. Or maybe one of the three could have been. I certainly saw in him the qualities of my particular type of fairy tale.
I think most women who desire to fall in love and get married have their list. This list of qualities they hope to find in this man they’ve dreamt of for so long is obviously different for everyone. My list is personal to me and I have no intention of dragging the entire thing out.
But recently, and I do mean recently, I’ve had to think a little bit more about that list and what is most important to me.
Let’s just establish here, before we go any further, that we’re leaving me out of the equation. I’ll come back to me later. I’m thinking about a series on the “Proverbs 31” woman. I have a whole long list of qualities I want to exhibit and some I think I do already.
But this fairy tale? This knight in shining armor? What does he look like?
- He loves Jesus.
- He has a hunger & thirst for God’s Word and living out God’s will.
- He is committed to being part of our church & in ministry in some form.
- He is hilarious. Or at least I think so. If a man makes me laugh that’s just about the sexiest thing ever.
- He loves children and wants to be a father.
- He is tender and kindhearted when the situation calls for it – particularly if it relates to me or our children.
- He is smart and can engage in intelligent conversation. And hopefully, playful arguments and debates.
- He loves football.
- Did I mention football?
- He is masculine & proud of who he is as a man.
- He works hard & is successful in whatever it is he chooses to do.
- He, like me, sees our family as part of our ministry.
- He is okay with my desire to have a noisy house full of life & people. I’m the girl that wants my house to be the gathering place for my kids & their friends (and our friends).
- He is openly affectionate.
- He pursues me always. Even after he’s won my heart.
- He honors, cherishes, and protects my heart.
- He values my opinion and seeks it out because he values it.
- Did I mention that he protects my heart?
- He is playful, easy-going, and finds ways to show me how much he loves and respects me.
- He cares about injustice in the world and it impacts charitable giving or actions.
- He is my best friend and truest companion.
- He is the first person I want to talk to when something is amazing, rotten, hilarious, or when something “Lucille Ball” like happens to me (bound to happen).
This fairy tale? It has eluded me so far. But I still pray for him. I still think about getting married. I don’t dream of fancy weddings that cost thousands of dollars. I dream of a quiet wedding on the beach or in the tiny chapel in my hometown. The wedding is not the thing. What is the thing, is two people standing before God and those closest to them – committing to love and honor each other, always.
I still dream of the fairy tale. I pray for the fairy tale. It may not look like your fairy tale. And it certainly isn’t like the fairy tales we read about or see played out in movies. But it’s still my dream.
It feels very unlikely during times like I’ve had recently. And yet, the hope doesn’t quite die. Wherever this hilarious, tender man (who loves football) is, I hope I run into him soon. And I hope he chooses me. He won’t regret that decision.